If a teenager is responsible for the Megan Had It Coming blog perhaps youth can be used as an excuse for their appalling judgment and insensitivity. On the blog, the author says they “want to set the record straight about Megan Meier”. They then proceed to denigrate a child who was obviously sad, lonely and troubled (remember what that feels like?). Here’s an example of what’s said about Megan on the blog:
Megan was a total drama queen. Yeah i know it was depression or whatev but it was hard to be her friend for very long because she would always lose it and turn into a psycho. That’s why (she*) stopped being friends with Megan. Let’s call her laura. Every other day Megan would have some crisis and you could see her freaking out down the hall or screaming at someone for stabbing her in the back or not listening to her or whatever then she would go cry to Laura unless it was her pissing her off. You couldn’t say anything to megan without her taking it the wrong way.
For those who haven’t heard the story, Megan was a young girl who thought she’d found a boyfriend via Myspace. What Megan actually found was a vindictive mother and her complicit daughter. This is how USA Today described the case:
Meier is the 13-year-old suburban St. Louis girl who met a cute 16-year-old named Josh Evans last year on the social networking site MySpace. They became close, but suddenly he turned on her, calling her names, saying she was “a bad person and everybody hates you”. Others joined the harassment – the barrage culminated in Megan’s Oct. 16, 2006, suicide, just short of her 14th birthday.
Weeks later, Megan’s grieving parents learned that the boy didn’t exist – he’d been fabricated by a neighbor (sic), the mother of one of Megan’s former friends. The girls had had a falling out, police say, and she wanted to know what Megan was saying about her daughter.
Compounding the role of the Internet in this tragedy, bloggers have named the mother at fault of setting up the MySpace site, and a protest (publicised online) has been organised for the weekend in the street where she lives. It’s sad to think some people believe behaving like a mob is going to honour Megan’s memory or do anything to assist isolated youngsters.
While it wasn’t the author of Megan Had It Coming’s intention, she has revealed a few things about the dead girl’s lack of confidence, need for approval, and vulnerability and erratic emotions. Heaven knows, rejection hurts at any age, but it’s especially acute when you’re an adolescent. Perhaps one day the author of the blog will understand what Megan went through and reject what she now has to say, but why would she given the central role an adult has played in the case. That woman surely must know how painful words like “fat” and “slut” are to teenagers. Those people who are after her blood surely must know they’re not helping matters.
For more information, have a look at Hoyden About Town.
*The blog mentions the name of the woman, so I have used “she” so as to not identify her, or potentially, and more importantly, her daughter.