Megan, the Mother, MySpace and the Mob


If a teenager is responsible for the Megan Had It Coming blog perhaps youth can be used as an excuse for their appalling judgment and insensitivity. On the blog, the author says they “want to set the record straight about Megan Meier”. They then proceed to denigrate a child who was obviously sad, lonely and troubled (remember what that feels like?). Here’s an example of what’s said about Megan on the blog:

Megan was a total drama queen. Yeah i know it was depression or whatev but it was hard to be her friend for very long because she would always lose it and turn into a psycho. That’s why (she*) stopped being friends with Megan. Let’s call her laura. Every other day Megan would have some crisis and you could see her freaking out down the hall or screaming at someone for stabbing her in the back or not listening to her or whatever then she would go cry to Laura unless it was her pissing her off. You couldn’t say anything to megan without her taking it the wrong way.

For those who haven’t heard the story, Megan was a young girl who thought she’d found a boyfriend via Myspace. What Megan actually found was a vindictive mother and her complicit daughter. This is how USA Today described the case:

Meier is the 13-year-old suburban St. Louis girl who met a cute 16-year-old named Josh Evans last year on the social networking site MySpace. They became close, but suddenly he turned on her, calling her names, saying she was “a bad person and everybody hates you”. Others joined the harassment – the barrage culminated in Megan’s Oct. 16, 2006, suicide, just short of her 14th birthday.

Weeks later, Megan’s grieving parents learned that the boy didn’t exist – he’d been fabricated by a neighbor (sic), the mother of one of Megan’s former friends. The girls had had a falling out, police say, and she wanted to know what Megan was saying about her daughter.

Compounding the role of the Internet in this tragedy, bloggers have named the mother at fault of setting up the MySpace site, and a protest (publicised online) has been organised for the weekend in the street where she lives. It’s sad to think some people believe behaving like a mob is going to honour Megan’s memory or do anything to assist isolated youngsters.

While it wasn’t the author of Megan Had It Coming’s intention, she has revealed a few things about the dead girl’s lack of confidence, need for approval, and vulnerability and erratic emotions. Heaven knows, rejection hurts at any age, but it’s especially acute when you’re an adolescent. Perhaps one day the author of the blog will understand what Megan went through and reject what she now has to say, but why would she given the central role an adult has played in the case. That woman surely must know how painful words like “fat” and “slut” are to teenagers. Those people who are after her blood surely must know they’re not helping matters.

For more information, have a look at Hoyden About Town.

*The blog mentions the name of the woman, so I have used “she” so as to not identify her, or potentially, and more importantly, her daughter.

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8 comments on “Megan, the Mother, MySpace and the Mob
  1. Helen says:

    Darlene, this isn’t my post so I hope you don’t mind a suggestion; if you’re linking to something distasteful like the above blog, you can put in a “rel=nofollow” tag, or alternatively, don’t link it at all, but supply a quote as an example and say that you won’t give them the benefit of linking them (and LP readers can find it if they want to check it out for themselves.)

    Disgusting stuff.

  2. Darlene says:

    Thanks, Exposer.

    That’s a good point, Helen. I hope others will see what the blog reveals about the author and about Megan. All it said to me about Megan is that she was troubled and sad. All it said to me about the author is that they are appalling and immature.

    I will extract a quote (of course, the quotes are bad enough).

    It is disgusting stuff. This whole case is just so hard to read about.

  3. […] Sorry saga continues Filed under: blogosphere — darlenetaylor @ 9:04 am It seems authorities are finally going to try and find out who’s responsible for the dreadful Megan Had It Coming site, which was mentioned in a previous post.  […]

  4. paul walter says:

    I think I gave Devine a blast in another thread for an article she addressed concerning this subject and had it mixed up with stuff she’s written previously about teenage access to “blue” sites as well as general issues of teenage feminine “overheating” she obsessively deals with.
    But I suspect, in retrospect, that the current Devine article is a bit better than usual from her, because the story discussed got big publicity a week or so ago and the pathological behaviours described, involving a predatory adult’s psychological annihilation of an innocent young kid read like an excerpt from a Stephen King novel, with a bit of “American Beauty” thrown in.
    Nonetheless, I still reckon a lot of stuff in the newspapers by people like Devine is turgid, exploitative and reinforces negative social paradigms. This time Devine may have been on to something relevant as well as sensing an opportunity beckoning for a bit of den-mother self-presentation.

  5. […] last year on the suicide of a young American girl who was cyberbullied via a fake MySpace profile. (Darlene on LP in Exile covered the defensiveness of the bullies and the public outrage.) No charges were laid against the […]

  6. anonamouse says:

    y didnt she get any charges? shes a murdererrrrr! what a wack job! who would do something like that? even though its not like a law or anything there should still b seriouse conciquencess!!

  7. Darlene says:

    No she didn’t. It’d be difficult to find anything to charge her with. Apparently, she’s denied starting the site or leaving messages on Megan’s site. She denies that most of the messages were negative, however, most of the messages were still designed to make Megan believe something that wasn’t true, and she knew the girls were leaving the messages.

    It was a horrible case. Hopefully those who might be inclined to bully others on the web might be put off from doing so after what happened to Megan. Doubt it though.

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