On the bookshelf at home a copy of The Rules sits between a book by Donna Tartt and something or rather by Jeanette Winterson.
The guide to getting a bloke was left by a former tenant (perhaps she thought the incoming residents would need it).
For those not in the know, The Rules sold trillions of copies to females wanting to know how to act around potential paramours.
Even if books like The Rules are dodgy, if funny, they continue to find a large and ready audience.
That might be pre-feminist and all, but it’s a fact.
Steve Santagati, author of The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate–and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top, has become a star thanks to his advice to lovelorn ladies.
And thanks to Oprah letting him on her show.
Apparently, Steve’s a naughty chap, and he thinks women should have a Brazilian and not “have a “sour puss” or get up on a soapbox and complain all the time.”
Thank the Goddess, first-wave feminists thought obtaining the vote was more important than not having a “sourpuss” or getting waxed back to prepubescence.
Go to Amazon’s page about “Bad Boy’s” book and you’ll find opposition to its contents is greeted with, “You missed the point, so sad” and “I can see where you might disagree with 25% but 99%? obviously you’re single and will stay single for a long time. steve delivers his thoughts with sincerity and honesty. much of it is COMMON SENSE. If you disagree with that, well then you’re a lost cause. you focused so much on the bras and panty lines yet ignored the rest of the book–and there is so much more!.”
One M. Robinson has this to say about The Manual (get it, the manual):
I cannot begin to express how amazing The Manual is!!
I am 32 years old (definitely not a rookie!) and have read all the tips & tricks in Cosmo, other mags, and a few books here and there to try to figure out why the men I have dated behaved the way they did. This book shed a lot of light on where I’ve been missing the boat. I can look back on past relationships now and see where they derailed and what role I unknowingly played in that process.
On top of the outstanding advice, I found myself cracking up throughout the book – Steve has a great sense of humor (sic)! He’s definitely skilled in the flirting department!
I’m like many of you out there – I’ve sworn more than once I just want to throw in the towel, but for the first time in a long time, I am really excited to get out there again!
This book is the best $20 I have ever spent!
According to Amazon, people who purchased “Bad Boy’s” book also bought the following:
How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America’s Top Matchmaker
Make Every Man Want You (or Make Yours Want You More): How To Be So Damn Irresistible You’ll Barely Keep From Dating Yourself!
How to Get Any Man to Do Anything You Want!
Man Magnet: How to Be the Best Woman You Can Be in Order to Get the Best Man
How to Get a Rich Man: The Princess Formula
Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman’s Guide to Winning Her Man’s Heart
How To Seduce A Man And Keep Him Seduced
It must be said that someone has gone to the trouble of producing a lot of links for Steve about such topics as pornography and sex trafficking. Yikes, a feminist dares to tread in enemy territory and survives with her pubic hair intact.
Reading Audrey Apple’s most recent post while thinking about Steve and the plethora of books on how to get a fellow (wow, doing two things at once is so female), I was struck by the following paragraph:
To celebrate, please find enclosed my latest column. It is essentially a response to the misogynistic argument that the way to defeat a woman is by insulting her hair (slash face slash body slash voice). As the razor sharp Mathari so eloquently puts it, “Is there a secret male book entitled Standard insults to knock ‘em down: how to use female insecurity to get what you want?”
Yes, but the book isn’t secret.