The best $20 you’ll ever spend?


On the bookshelf at home a copy of The Rules sits between a book by Donna Tartt and something or rather by Jeanette Winterson.

The guide to getting a bloke was left by a former tenant (perhaps she thought the incoming residents would need it).

For those not in the know, The Rules sold trillions of copies to females wanting to know how to act around potential paramours.

Even if books like The Rules are dodgy, if funny, they continue to find a large and ready audience.

That might be pre-feminist and all, but it’s a fact.

Steve Santagati, author of The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate–and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top, has become a star thanks to his advice to lovelorn ladies. 

And thanks to Oprah letting him on her show.

Apparently, Steve’s a naughty chap, and he thinks women should have a Brazilian and not “have a “sour puss” or get up on a soapbox and complain all the time.”

Thank the Goddess, first-wave feminists thought obtaining the vote was more important than not having a “sourpuss” or getting waxed back to prepubescence.

Go to Amazon’s page about “Bad Boy’s” book and you’ll find opposition to its contents is greeted with, “You missed the point, so sad” and “I can see where you might disagree with 25% but 99%? obviously you’re single and will stay single for a long time. steve delivers his thoughts with sincerity and honesty. much of it is COMMON SENSE. If you disagree with that, well then you’re a lost cause. you focused so much on the bras and panty lines yet ignored the rest of the book–and there is so much more!.”

One M. Robinson has this to say about The Manual (get it, the manual):

I cannot begin to express how amazing The Manual is!!

I am 32 years old (definitely not a rookie!) and have read all the tips & tricks in Cosmo, other mags, and a few books here and there to try to figure out why the men I have dated behaved the way they did. This book shed a lot of light on where I’ve been missing the boat. I can look back on past relationships now and see where they derailed and what role I unknowingly played in that process.

On top of the outstanding advice, I found myself cracking up throughout the book – Steve has a great sense of humor (sic)! He’s definitely skilled in the flirting department!

I’m like many of you out there – I’ve sworn more than once I just want to throw in the towel, but for the first time in a long time, I am really excited to get out there again!

This book is the best $20 I have ever spent!

According to Amazon, people who purchased “Bad Boy’s” book also bought the following:

How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America’s Top Matchmaker

Make Every Man Want You (or Make Yours Want You More): How To Be So Damn Irresistible You’ll Barely Keep From Dating Yourself!

How to Get Any Man to Do Anything You Want!

Man Magnet: How to Be the Best Woman You Can Be in Order to Get the Best Man

How to Get a Rich Man: The Princess Formula

Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman’s Guide to Winning Her Man’s Heart

How To Seduce A Man And Keep Him Seduced

It must be said that someone has gone to the trouble of producing a lot of links for Steve about such topics as pornography and sex trafficking. Yikes, a feminist dares to tread in enemy territory and survives with her pubic hair intact.

Reading Audrey Apple’s most recent post while thinking about Steve and the plethora of books on how to get a fellow (wow, doing two things at once is so female), I was struck by the following paragraph:

To celebrate, please find enclosed my latest column. It is essentially a response to the misogynistic argument that the way to defeat a woman is by insulting her hair (slash face slash body slash voice). As the razor sharp Mathari so eloquently puts it, “Is there a secret male book entitled Standard insults to knock ‘em down: how to use female insecurity to get what you want?”

Yes, but the book isn’t secret.

Posted in culture, feminism, levity, sexuality
40 comments on “The best $20 you’ll ever spend?
  1. Pavlov's Cat says:


    Call that a bad boy?

    These are bad boys.

    (If the link works.)

  2. Darlene says:

    Tex Perkins again, PC. Mmmm, I see a pattern.

    Yes, bad boys don’t go on Oprah at any rate.

    This bloke is just playing some stupid role cause he knows it will sell more books.

  3. anthony says:

    A manual that comes with its own tool, it’s just like Ikea.

  4. j_p_z says:

    “A True Bad Boy Explains…”

    Dunno bout that. Seems to me like Miles Davis, Johnny Thunders and Lee Marvin have all moved on to that great overnight lockup in the sky.

  5. Pavlov's Cat says:

    What Anthony said. Also note the etymology: from the Latin manualis, ‘of or belonging to the hand’.

  6. Darlene says:

    Good one, Anthony. This guy is absolutely an allen key.

    The great overnight lockup in the sky for all eternity, hey.

    Johnny Thunders is an interesting inclusion on that list. I see they have never worked out whether Johnny’s death was accidental, deliberate or whatever.

  7. Darlene says:

    Tee hee, I learn something everyday reading this blog. Thanks PC for the lesson in Latin. It’s the kind of Latin a girl could use.

  8. David Rubie says:

    I thought you should spend your last $10 on birth control and beer. Adjusting for inflation, that would be $20 now wouldn’t it?

  9. j_p_z: let’s not forget Ike Turner, who kicked the bucket a few days ago. A real piece of work.

  10. Darlene says:

    You should bring out a book, David.

    That was a song, I do believe:

    “I spent my last ten dollars on birth control and beer
    My life was so much simpler when I was sober and queer
    But the love of a strong hairy man has turned my head I fear
    And made me spend my last ten bucks on birth control and beer”

    Ike Turner….yes, he left the building as well. Wonder if Tina has had anything to say about that.

  11. Katz says:

    Steve Santagati, author of The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate–and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top, has become a star thanks to his advice to lovelorn ladies.

    More likely, the book sold very well because there are so many lovelorn ladies.

    If there were no lovelorn ladies, the book could have been full of the best.advice.eva and never sold a single copy.

  12. David Rubie says:

    Darlene, I might just write a book:

    “Dave’s guide to birth control and beer: what men want when there’s nothing on the telly”

    Kind of a rough guide to navigating those quiet parts of the day when you’re not working, looking after children or trying to keep your shambolic shack in habitable order and your man is scratching his bum in the kitchen looking lost or bored.

    I’ll include an appendix on checking the oil and tyre pressures on your car, just so it has some factual content and doesn’t end up in the fictional section.

  13. Paul Burns says:

    For those curious about Tina’s response to Ike’s demise, her publicist released a statement along the lines of:
    “Tina Turner has not seen Ike Turner for 35 years.”

  14. philiptravers says:

    And you can actually afford to live in Brisbane,I assume,how do you do it!? And as men come in all income groups and non-occupations ,age and ,interests,do they all seem like the few Americans to laugh at!?

  15. j_ust_one_more says:

    “A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think…”

    Oh, has Oscar Wilde written a new book after 100 years? That was certainly very kind of him.

  16. manthatcooks says:

    Miles Davis’s bad boy is in front of a bad woman.

  17. anthony says:

    ooh wordpress activated

  18. joe2 says:

    Pavlov’s Cat, I will raise you… ‘bad boys, bad girl and a comical twirl.’

  19. Pavlov's Cat says:

    Great clip, Joe2, but the whole point about Tex is that his badness makes him hawt (which Dave Graney is not), and probably vice versa.

    John Doyle is also hawt, but in a completely different way. HG is not hawt, but is possibly the baddest of the three.

  20. joe2 says:

    On the contrary, PV, IMHO, dg, is the man most “hawt” because he ‘understands’ and has never pushed himself beyond his own limits for fame and fortune.

  21. anthony says:

    I’ll see you, joe2, with a Manos: The Hands of Fate [warning! unsubtle references]

  22. joe2 says:

    Oh hell, anthony, so unfair.

  23. Pavlov's Cat says:

    Joe2, no no no. Sorry. You need to be a woman (which I assume you are not) to understand fully what ‘hawt’ means in the Tex context.

    (Not ignoring Teh Gays here, but I’m guessing Tex is not their idea of a cup of tea.)

  24. The Devil Drink says:

    Cup of tea? Tex Perkins? I’m severely misinformed, it seems. Last time I saw Tex he was bringing back very un-tealike souvenirs.
    Best $20 you’ll ever spend, BTW, is six cans of local beer and a pensioner concession buspass. Don’t pretend you’re above it, luvvies.

  25. joe2 says:

    O.K., PC , let the cat out of the bag and have a wonderful time doing it.

  26. Beppie says:

    Wow, so we should remove our body hair (even when painful) and smile regardless of any pain?

    That’s so ORIGINAL!

  27. John Greenfield says:

    Nah, that’s not a bad boy.

    is a bad boy!

  28. John Greenfield says:


  29. Darlene says:

    Wow, that’s some non-comment from Tina. Well she doesn’t owe the Ikester anything.

    It’s true there’s a market for this book because there’s lot of single women around who are finding modern man (oxymoron, I know) hard to grasp.

    Tex has got the kind of bad boy charm and raw blokiness that’s appealing on some very base level. However, don’t try it at home blokes.

    As far as I’m concerned, Beppie, Bad Boy can wax his own bits and see how he likes it. Women don’t have to fit his porn fantasy.

  30. Su says:

    …because there’s lot of single women around who are finding modern man (oxymoron, I know) hard to grasp.

    Oh stop it.

  31. Darlene says:

    Tee hee, Su. Lots of excuses for wank references in this post.

  32. John Greenfield says:


    I there really such a dearth of modern men?

  33. frodo441 says:

    what’s wrong…did someone die?

  34. frodo441 says:

    “modern men” have a genuine problem when their “ladies” find the next best thing…

  35. frodo441 says:

    …the conundrum probably the quality of “artificial intelligence”…

  36. frodo441 says:

    …of course it is an improvement to understand exactly how a dog salivates when meat powder is placed on the tongue…irregardless of every other great thinker…aside from the reality that maybe you need a good loving Berlin grunge rocker…

  37. frodo441 says:

    of course…with the apparent “dissatisfaction” or “lack of understanding” in WFB’s bastard stepchildren and the New Republic…you could be alittle more compassionate rather than throughing Kangaroos to great white sharks…if it’s a mate …counseling might work if there’s anything salvageable in the ill gotten gain of your relationship…with every goodbye you learn…

  38. frodo441 says:

    …who will wear the red shoes now….?

  39. I will check this book in Thanks for the info.

  40. Darlene says:

    Johnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn, yes.

    Boho, I hope that comment was spam because I’d hate to think you were really going to look at that book.

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